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Why traditional goal setting doesn’t work?

Updated: Apr 30

How to make your vision a reality through Embodied Visioning

Traditional goal setting isn't sexy.

It doesn't turn you on. It's boring and therefore doesn't work in the long term. That's all I could say to hep you awaken your curiosity, but let's get a little geeky & dive deeper into what the research has to say. 

It's not what you cognitively think you should be, have or do that keeps you motivated to achieve your goals. Yes, you can follow what your mind tells you, but it's not a way of following your bliss. I'm sure that chasing dreams that aren't really yours is not how you want to spend your precious life. 

You are a human being, not a human doing, and I believe that everyone deserves to focus their energy on how to thrive, not survive, and that's what I want to help you with today. 

You deserve to follow your heart's desires & create relationships and businesses in a way that's unique to you.

Imagine what it feels like to be turned on most of the time by your vision for intimacy, relationships or business.

What I've found in my coaching conversations with people is that their lack of inner drive is caused by losing sight of an authentic vision that has been dormant in their hearts for a while.

Or it is often their fear that stands between them and their dream reality.

Fear of failure…

Fear of rejection…

Fear of intimacy…

Fear of success…

Oh, I can so relate to this.

I can't tell you how many times I've struggled to carry on. I think because this work is my true calling, life keeps throwing obstacles at me to test my commitment haha.

Intimacy & Business are the two things that will test you the most in life and bring your buried fears to the surface (no need to sit with plant medicine ;) ).

Most people give up the moment they encounter their first obstacles.

That's why they don't stick to their goals & break their own promises.

What will keep you going no matter what is your embodied vision.

Are you ready to create yours?

Let's dive into the research first, so you know why it's worth creating your juicy, embodied vision rather than sticking to your SMART goals.

Get inspired by what you truly desire.

Emotions are your driving fuel for everything you do.

Our brain needs emotional triggers whether positive or negative for neuroplasticity to occur & embody a new habit… Without them, your life becomes a set of thoughts, behaviours and habits from yesterday. You have no motivation to follow your desires, and your life becomes stagnant. 

There is a juicy cocktail of neurotransmitters and hormones flowing in your body that make you want to move mountains even when your life gets challenging…

Research shows us that being driven by our true desires & deepest longing is what puts us in a state of curiosity and openness, and that’s all you need to become successful in anything; be it a relationship or business. 

According to Richard Boyatsiz’s research, we make decisions based on PEA - Positive Emotional Attractors, and NEA - Negative Emotional Attractors.

In somatics, we don’t use the terms “negative”  or “positive” when talking about emotions, because, for example, anger is a powerful indicator of boundaries being crossed. Sadness is a gateway to a more open heart, and surpassing them causes more damage in your nervous system, your life and relationships than good, but let’s keep the original name for more clarity. 

PEA arousal allows us to grow, make changes and bold moves, experience pleasure and feel motivated. It produces “feel good” hormones and supports feelings of safety, hope, and bliss. It enables us to THRIVE

NEA arousal is activated when we need to deal with stressful situations, brace ourselves against a potential threat or perform a task with enhanced mental focus. It helps us get things done & mostly SURVIVE.

We need both for healthy functioning.

Conventional coaching & traditional goal setting activate NEA & Analytical Networks responsible for logical thinking and a sympathetic (fight or flight) system… It can be helpful for a short-term fix but it’s not sustainable in the long run, and.. A turn-off for your heart’s desires. The problem is that the person is most likely to feel shut down & give up the moment they encounter their first challenges. 

It’s a more linear, left-brain, or masculine approach to leadership. 

(don’t think you are a leader? remember, you are always the leader of your own life..)

Studies have shown that somatic coaching & embodied visioning activate PEA, the empathic networks responsible for creativity & the parasympathetic (relaxation-based) nervous system, helping us to move towards more sustainable change. We feel more open to new solutions, to new people and to learning from our successes & as well as from our failures. We feel more turned on each step we take towards our vision.

It's a non-linear, right-brain or feminine approach to leadership.

Source of research information: The Somatic School

So how do you make your vision a reality in 2024?

  1. Download the embodied visioning practice I've created for you

  2. Dive into your vision, write it down & create a plan that truly excites you.

  3. Create your own embodiment practice to help you keep the momentum going. (Yay, you are one step closer every day!)

  4. Book a free consultation call with me if you want to dive even deeper & need more guidance (I only offer these calls once in a while for a limited time, so go ahead & grab your spot)

“You say 'I' and you are proud of this word. But greater than this- although you will not believe in it - is your body and its great intelligence, which does not say 'I' but performs 'I'.” Friedrich Nietzsche"

Don’t let another year pass you by.

It breaks my heart to see how many people settle for less than they desire, and I hope that you won't be one of them. Download the Embodied Visioning practice here and do it as many times as you need to gain clarity, and then take inspired action! Don't hesitate to contact me & book a consultation if you need more guidance. It will be my greatest pleasure to help you make your vision a reality.

The best thing? It's FREE!

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